Fake it to Make it

fake tanI’ve learned something this past year. It’s been a difficult lesson, but I’ve learned it daggumit.

It’s simply this: Sometimes you need to pretend that you already are what you want to become in order to convince yourself and others that you are what you believe you can become.

In other words- fake it til you make it.

Yes, it’s simple. Yes, tons of people have already written about it and talked about it. No, I’m not a revolutionary for coming up with it. But if you have any shred of midwestern humility in you, you know how difficult this can actually be.

Because you don’t want to become full of yourself. You don’t want to be ego-centric. You don’t want to lose sight of your foundation and your friends and your groundings and the reality of the situation around you.

But you do want to allow yourself to own and be proud of what you are and what you believe you can accomplish. And that, sometimes, require becoming a person you are not comfortable admitting you are.

It’s scary to push yourself beyond what you believed to be your limits. It’s scary to admit that you’re putting yourself out on the line. It’s scary to throw yourself in front of people and say “This is me! I believe in me!” People will try and tear you down. All the people on the sidelines who are too scared to become themselves will shift their attention from their own fears and put them onto you and try and tell you you’re not good enough or you can’t do what you believe you can.

But they’re wrong. You can do anything you believe you can do. And if you pretend you are something or someone and do everything in your power to convince yourself that you truly are that person, you will become it. It may take a while and will require some intense change and growing pains, but you’ll do it.

So visualize what you want to become and believe that you are that person. Live it. Breathe it. And then strap in because you’re in for a bumpy and wonderful ride.

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The Other Client List

As I’ve mentioned on here once or twice, I wrote and am currently co-producing a web series called The Other Client List (you can check us out on Facebook here!)

I’m really excited and proud of this project. We just launched our Indiegogo campaign to try and raise enough funds for the whole 10-episode series. It’s going to be so good. My production partner and co-star is amazing. Our director is incredible. It’s going to be an awesome production and I will make it a reality- come hell or highwater. Let’s hope those don’t come, because it’d be easier to produce in normal external conditions…

I’ve been trying to get the word out. So I wrote an article about the series. The first of many varied articles, vlogs, etc, we’ll be using to help spread the word.

Here’s the article. I hope you enjoy. And I hope you take time to check out and donate to our fundraising page by clicking here.

Taking Hollywood By the Balls

One of the numerous stereotypes of women is that we’re the more “passive” sex. We’re more patient and able to handle whatever the world may give us. We don’t ask for raises, we just accept our pay without question. We let men be the aggressive hunters while we primp ourselves as beautiful prey. And we let men be the funny storytellers while we’re the open and receptive audience.

Sure, these are stereotypes. But they’re stereotypes based in truth. Truth about gender norms and expectations that still ring true in our society.

There are two young women in Hollywood, however, who refuse to fall into any stereotypes. Arye Rapini is a blonde Brazilian dramatic actress who not only nails comedic roles, but also works full-time as a financial advisor. Briana Hansen is a quirky-girl-next-door midwestern comedic actress who not only enjoys constantly creating imaginary people and conversations, but also works full-time as a paralegal.

And “passive” wouldn’t be used in a million years to describe either of these women. Not only do they both workout regularly and maintain strict diet regimens, they spend most of their non-working time on creative pursuits. Any given night of the week or weekend, you can find them out hustling in Hollywood, trying to prove to the gatekeepers that they’re worth letting in the club.

But Arye and Briana got tired of waiting for Hollywood to come to them with the perfect opportunity. So they decided to create their own and pave their own way up the nebulous entertainment ladder. And they did what any two busy working actresses with full-time day jobs would do. They created their own web series.

The Other Client List is a 10-episode web series that is made for the modern viewer. Each episode follows a separate character arc, just like the popular latest season of Arrested Development. Each episode is written for internet content with the quick cutaway joke style that Family Guy made so popular. And they’re modeled after the style of series Netflix has made mainstream. People can watch each episode by itself and be satisfied, but they’re compelled to watch the whole series all at once because each episode ends right at the next one’s beginning.

Plus, there’s even some parts for animals. The internet loves animals!

Not to mention, they’re funny. Both the episodes and the actors involved. Like… really funny. Really. They’re funny. For real.

So next time you’re annoyed with all the stereotypes you see in Hollywood of women, be more like these two aggressive women. Remember, the less energy you use aggregating all the proof of existing stereotypes in popular media, the more energy you save for creating your own projects that shatter them.

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